Fury and desire.

As for that incident in my city, similar things happen all the time. Many versions of it happened to me when I was younger, sometimes involving death threats and often involving torrents of obscenities: a man approaches a women with both desire and the furious expectation that the desire will likely be rebuffed. The fury and desire come in a package, all twisted together into something that always threatens to turn eros into thanatos, love into death, sometimes literally. (27)

From Solnit, Rebecca. “The Longest War.” Men Explain Things to Me. Chicago: Haymarket, 2014. Print.